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The 5 Deadly Sins of Relationships

The list of things that can happen to harm one's relationship is staggering, but probably the most unbelievable thing about it is that nearly everything that regularly causes couples to break up is, simply put, STUPID. At least 95% of relationship issues are totally avoidable with a little common sense, loyalty, and integrity, and you can see that by looking at the following 5 most common culprits for relationship death.

1) Infidelity. Also known as CHEATING on your partner. Boys and girls, if you can't seem to fully comprehend the idea that sleeping around is a BAD thing to do that can emotionally destroy your partner...you deserve to be alone, I just feel bad for the person who loved you and got hurt because of it. The rules are simple: don't cheat. When you commit to a relationship with someone, that means everyone else becomes OFF-LIMITS. Honestly, there's no reason you should even want to breach your partner's trust in you...not if you have any shred of human decency.

2) Being demanding and controlling. Everybody's probably seen at least one comedy movie where a happy-go-lucky guy is assaulted by his ogre of a woman, who can't seem to let go of the leash long enough for him to walk into the kitchen. Sure, silly facial expressions and overemphasized gestures make you laugh, but inside you know there's a part of you that's thinking "I'm so glad that's not ME getting a phone call every 10 minutes asking where I am." Well, don't make your partner that person...if boys and girls can't get along and trust each other, there's not much point in even having a relationship at all. Have a little trust.

3) Lack of regard for your partner's feelings, or emotional support. I know, it's such a cliched expression that I feel silly just using it, but not giving your partner the emotional support he or she needs is a painful and self-esteem damaging thing. When the one you love has a difficult time seeing how much you DO love him or her, it hurts! Most of this can be helped just by listening to your partner...really listening, and responding like a human person rather than a parrot. A little support from the one who loves you isn't too much to ask, so don't be stingy in giving it.

4) Letting fights get out of their role. Whenever two people are stuck together for extended periods of time, even if those people love each other desperately and passionately, there are going to be clashes where one person feels one way and the other a different way...that's life, that's relationships. It can even be healthy to clear the air sometimes, but when you let a fight expand outside the boundary of being helpful, it starts really harming your relationship. Don't just shrug off your partner's concerns, but don't take fights too seriously either. Oh, and a tip for making fights a little less impactful: give in every now and again. ;)

5) Lack of "zest" in a relationship. I'm not talking about craziness in the bedroom here, I'm talking about enjoying each other and the time you spend together, keeping things active and loving your lives together. Boredom and lack of spontaneity is a deadly threat to relationships that's been on the uptrend lately, and nothing makes me sadder than when I hear of a couple that was beautiful for each other and loved each other deeply just kind of dissolving because there wasn't much there anymore. Stay creative with your love, and make every day you're with your partner as much of a blessing as it should be.

Well now you've been versed in the basic Five Deadly Relationship Sins. Any one of these can really cripple your relationship, and even the person you share it with...so in the name of anything you consider holy, avoid hurting the one you love by keeping these things from ever having a chance to destroy your relationship. With a little bit of trust, care, and decency, your biggest threats can be absolutely nothing.

So before you do something that'll jeopardize your relationship, stop and think. Is it really worth it to hurt your partner and become alone? Have a brain, and have a heart.

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