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Making Up With Your Ex Boyfriend

Compromise and sacrifice are a critical part in the give-and-take aspect of any healthy relationship, and if you really want to get your ex boyfriend back you're going to need to keep that in mind. Nothing makes mending a broken relationship easy, but the advice I have for you can make it a lot less difficult to make him want to come back to you.

It's a pretty reasonable assumption that if your ex was the one who did the leaving, it's because of one of two things. Either he was getting tired of the relationship growing stale from lack of activity between you two, or he was running for his life from a woman who couldn't let go and let him live his own life. Either of these two possibilities is plenty enough reason for a man to want to leave.

Getting him back after he's run away like that isn't a picnic in a sunny park, but if you stop doing the things that made him want to leave you, you have a pretty decent shot of fixing your mistakes. Take a look at yourself and the relationship, and figure out what things that led to the breakup were your fault...and yes, a lot of it will be your fault. Not playing blame games, just saying that generally the person doing the leaving is having an issue with the person being left.

Analyze yourself and come up with the things that you did to contribute to the end of the relationship. Once you've figured out what you're responsible for, you can do something to fix it. If yours is like one of the cases I've mentioned, I can help you a bit.

If your biggest problem was a lack of activity in the relationship that led to it getting stale, it's really pretty sad. There's no excuse for letting a relationship just peter out and expire. If you two love each other, you should do things with each other...spend time with one another, and live your lives together. Being bored with your partner is a tragedy that shouldn't ever get the chance to occur.

If you were being a bit controlling and refusing to back out of his personal matters and let him live his own life, you need to realize that boxing the guy in isn't going to prevent his escape. Oh sure, we laugh when we see a guy being hounded by his girlfriend on TV, but in real life it's a different matter. Having somebody constantly looking over your shoulder and nagging you is horrible, and even if you feel you're entitled to butt in everywhere, you need to relax a little and have some confidence that he can run his own life.

So take the initial period after the breakup to give your ex boyfriend some space without you, and utilize the time apart to do this self-analysis and really address the issues you two faced. Don't bother him about anything for a while, and when the time seems right to go ahead and establish contact again, go about it gently. Chances are he won't want to talk to you very much, so keep it light and simple. A basic "hey, how have you been?" is about all you should be planning at this stage.

Once you've been talking for a while, and tension is relaxing, you guys will probably start seeing each other in person again. When this happens, it's important to do things together that you two always used to enjoy as a couple. Mini golf, going to see movies, taking the dogs for a walk...whatever times the two of you used to share that were really fun and relaxing, do things with him that will remind him of them. He'll start to see you like he did then, and he may even decide for himself that he wants to get back together and give it another try.

And while you guys are spending time together, be sure to allow the work you've been doing on yourself to shine out and be noticed. Don't wave a yellow neon flag that says "hey look what I did," but if you let it speak for itself, the work you've done will probably impress him to no end.

From this point it's really all in how you handle things. I can't make a 100% promise that anything you do will work to make him want to get back together with you, but among your choices that give you the best chances, the things I've told you here should do fairly well towards paving the way to the healing of your relationship and the start of a new one.

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