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How To Bend A Man To Your Will 

Anyone who says that it's difficult to get a man to fall for you has not learned a few tricks of the trade. You have at your disposal a number of crafty methods to build intimacy with a guy even on the first date that are so clever he will never know you are worming your way into his heart until it is too late and you have moved in there and taken over. But these methods are not cheating or using mind control on them that would be frightening if you became that kind of girl. These methods are simple techniques of human communication that can help you in every aspect of life.

It is true that we only communicate a small part of what we mean in what we say, the other part is in our body language and this can be saying the complete opposite to what we say verbally. Men are dumb to body language, women are 10 times more receptive to it so they take it for granted that a man should know what her signals say. But by using stronger signals and by watching for what signals he is giving, then you can achieve your goal.

The best way to learn body language is to observe others, you can see when people are receptive to each other as their body language is open. They have their arms open, their palms out, they make gestures as they talk. Someone who is closed off will have their head tilted down, have their legs pointing away from the person and have their arms crossed etc. When just the movement of your hands or eyes can turn a date around it is important that you pay close attention to the signals you are sending so you don't appear bored or hostile by mistake!

To give the message that he has your full attention and that you find him interesting then use a slight smile and lean forward towards him and he will hear that message loud and clear. Also pay attention to your hands, are they at your side or on the table as if reaching towards him? If you do that then you are signalling that he can come to you for friendship and love. If you then turn your palms upwards it shows openness as well.

As the night progresses then take every opportunity to accidentally touch him. Whether you grab hold of him to steady yourself, touch his hand as he gives you a drink or anything you can think of that does not give away that you are doing it on purpose. This gives a sense of intimacy and lowers barriers between you both. Also you can whisper in his ear, this is an incredibly intimate thing to do, yet when you are talking about something to do with the couple behind you etc then it also looks perfectly innocent. He will not be able to resist you after that!

Echoing and mirroring are two other methods body language experts say create an instant bond between you and the man you want to get to know. Mirroring consists of watching his gestures, how he sits and how he uses his head and arms and mimicking those movements in a very subtle way. In that way, when he looks at you, it's like looking at a mirror of himself and that makes him feel you are very much like him and someone he wants to know better.

You can also take it a step further and emulate the way he talks. I don't mean copy his accent or he will think you are mocking him. But watch the way he talks, does he talk gently or loudly? Does he talk for long bursts and then stop or in little segments? You can then take his lead and copy his style, again he will feel a bond with you but won't know why... you will be gently creating the 'click' that happens on a great date.

These little tricks of the trade are proven methods for lowering the barriers to true romance and getting that guy to open up to you so you can get to know him. And by being a clever companion to him, you are learning to make him better for you even when he doesn't know you are doing it. It's a skill that will benefit you in every stage of your relationship with a man.

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