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For Better or Better

As a child growing up in the 60’s I honestly cannot think of anyone in my life that had been thru a divorce, and all my families friends had been together for years. My friends parents had all been together for many years and probably died still together. Now, as a 50 year old adult, I cannot think of one couple I know that has that has made it together for more than 5 years.

Of course, I’ve heard both sides of my friends and families breakups and it seems to come down to this:
one person had some kind drama in their lives and the other partner didn’t want to deal with it. I’m not including the reasons of an abusive or cheating relationships. Anybody should get out of those kind of relationships. I mean the majority of breakups where no one really did anything wrong, but one or the other decided they wanted more in their lives.

In other words, they didn’t feel like being committed to that person anymore, which is one of the main keywords of why relationships don’t usually last. From my experience, it seems most people that go into a relationship go into it with the attitude of it being kind of a “trial” period. So, if the relationship doesn’t fulfill them completely and constantly or there are any bumps in the road, they are down the road and on to their next trial relationship.

For better or worse, has become for better or better.

This is totally unrealistic to expect life to be wonderful and non-stop fun everyday, but using and expecting the partner to be their source of happiness seems to have become the rule rather than the exception.
Why move in with or marry someone if you aren’t sure that when life drops you in a hole, your partner will be there to give you a hand out? And why try to be someone Else’s source of joy? Let them find their own joy inside themselves first before getting romantically involved with them.

If you can honestly say that you cannot keep any of your commitments for the promised time, or for whatever else you may have promised, then don’t make any commitments at all. And while you are at it, look up and memorize these words:

Commitment
Loyalty
Backbone
Integrity

Living by these words will get two people thru anything that life can throw at them.

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